are there any real agencys to help with a mail order bride?
Sunday, March 7th, 2010 at
7:19 am
fungoodheartedhonest asked:
most dating sites for russian women are a scam, how do you meet women that want to come to america and are for real
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Mostly asian women here.
Find one in USA , There are many women from different countries
I would be very careful pursuing this method of matchmaking. First of all, most of the “women” you might meet on line from Russia are only out for your money, a green card or both. There is a common scam out right now that traps at least a dozen men per week (judging from reports that I see). You meet a “Russian girl” on the internet, she professes her love and sends you some photos. Next thing you know, she wants to come visit you. She send you a copy of her visa. You send her 1200 dollar by Western Union. You never hear from her again.
One arrest in Moscow uncovered that several guys running an internet cafe were posing as women to bilk men overseas of thousands of dollars. It is very easy. They hide in the anonymity of the internet, preying on rubes who think that Russians are all poor (somehow they connect to the internet, but they don’t have a telephone.” They use Altavista’s babelfish to translate their letters, and troll for lonely middle-aged guys who really think that a hot 25 year-old medical school graduate would be interested in them.
If you want to roll the dice and meet someone in Russia, you have to contact an introduction service like “A Foreign Affair” or another. They sell you a package tour that allows you to get a visa, go to Russia and meet potential mates at a series of parties they throw for the men on the tour. You go on a few dates and see if you anything in common (okay, it’s a meat market) meet their family and see how they live. This way you have contact with a real live person and know they are not scamming you through the internet.
The agency will even help you get your new friend a fiancee visa by helping you with the paperwork. Your “fiancee” then goes to the US and you have 90 days to get married or she has to return to Russia. If you get married, she gets conditional legal permanent resident status for two years. If the marriage “takes” (that is, she doesn’t all the cops and charge you with domestic abuse…be advised they do this quite often even when they aren’t abused, because they then get permanent residency and get to take half of your assets in a divorce) then you sign a form and she gets a permanent green card, allowing her to stay with you for good (or bad).
Cross cultural relationships are very difficult when you love the other person. However, consider this. You will be marrying someone whose interest in you is mostly mercenary (get out of Russia and have a shot at marrying up (not you, but a richer, more handsome version after she leaves you in two years). She was born and raised in the Soviet Union, and couldn’t become successful in her own country where she had mostly free access to any University.
I have heard horror stories and success stories. I have met women from Russia on their third husbands in the US with children with three different surnames. I have seen decent people marry Americans who try to make it work and are grateful for the opportunity. The bottom line is that you have to go to Russia and understand where they are coming from, take your time, and try to find someone who is leaving something behind…a good family, maybe a nice job. That way, you know that at least they aren’t desperate.
I have met many people who are happy with this result…but remember the adage “if it looks too good to be true, it probably is.” If you are a 40-year-old dork from Des Moines who hasn’t been on a date in his life and are expecting a svelt sociable attractive 25 year-old from St. Petersburg who goes to the Opera and the theatre to fall madly in love with you and be content to sit home and watch the “simpsons” and play copmuter games, you will be disappointed.