Should I trust a BEAUTIFUL Ukrainian woman who wants to meet me?
Sunday, August 9th, 2009 at
8:23 pm
Robert M asked:
She found me on a dating site. She is full of affection. But not full of answers to my questions. She has sent 8 pics of herself, which are believable and normal. She is 32, I am 45.She has not asked me for any money or favors….yet. I cannot get her to establish a phone call.She has not given her full name or address. She claims to be getting her Visa and passport together now and wants to come to the States soon to meet me??? Is this for real….or a scam???
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I think people should be really careful in dating in the Internet.
You really don’t know who is this woman. I don’t want scare you but there are some group of people who steal money from men by this way. they make love with men and after that kill him and steal his money.
Just be careful and try to know her well , meet her in publice.
Look at her behavoir, don’t give her at first meeting any information of yourslef that may be could be dangerous for you.
Good luck.
Of course you should, and you should marry her right away with no prenuptial. The old adage “to good to be true” might apply here. If she is truly interested in meeting you just because she likes you, and not into some scam, she should be fairly open. She would hold back some details for safetys sake, but no phone call? Tread lightly my friend. This world is full of people looking to use and abuse, be smart about it, proceed at your pace and dont ignore warning signs. If it smells fishy, find somewhere else to fish.
good luck, be careful
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It is a scam.
I will generalize why, based on my and friends personal experience “internet dating” Ukrainians, and in researching scams (part of my Ukrainian wife’s business).
First, she got your email from a dating site. I bet this site requires a credit card payment for “members” to be able to mail each other, or is one of those completely free sites. Most Ukrainians do not have internet at home, and most do not have credit cards for payment to sites (nor do they make enough to justify such an expense).
Second, she does not answer your questions. A “real” Ukrainian woman of her age will typically latch onto what she views as a “good man”, and be totally honest and open with him within 3-7 days.
She will address you by your first name often, and will typically call you by a “sweet name” (Johnny, Petey, Carlitos, etc). Check your emails… does she ever call you by first name inside the email, other than at the top? Do her emails have nothing to do with what you ask her?
Phone calls… despite what she tells you, she either has a home phone, or a mobile phone. I do not know a Ukrainian who does not have one or the other, unless she lives in a village (in which case she would not have internet access).
And “getting her Visa and passport together”… first, a 32-year old unmarried woman will not get a visa from the US Embassy to come here. Accept that fact. I do not care what anyone tells you, a visitor visa will not be obtained. Student visas can be obtained, but she would have to be enrolled in a Ukrainian University, and she would have to be on a “University Exchange” program and enrolled in a US University.
What will happen, if you keep up the ruse with her, is she will never ask for money until she goes to buy her plane tickets and “I did not realize I would have to buy a round trip ticket, and now I need $xxx for _____ or I can not come to you.” (Fill in the blank with “return air ticket”, living expense, food, or whatever excuse you want.)
It is the “new” scam they are using. They are finding that Americans are getting wise to the up front money requests. She will lead you on until you are tied to her heart and expect her in a few days (“I got my visa today! I will buy tickets and we will be together this weekend!”), and then she will tug those heartstrings when you have such anticipation that you will send it because you believe her so much. It is hard to hear “I can be there Saturday, but I need $600″, and not send it.
Run.
If you want a real relationship with a real Ukrainian woman, go to a reputable site and buy a membership (ie:), fly to Ukraine and meet a good women, or be very very very careful.